Talk about a tough situation.
This guy’s situation is:
* tough
* heart-breaking
* extremely bizarre
Read what happened:
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Hi There CR,
I got a very big problem I want you to know about,
remember the virgin chick I told you about who I wanted
to know if it was right about expressing my feelings to her,
of which you said I should as long as she is trust worthy,
well I did, well that’s not the problem.
The problem now is that she went home for a family
get-together at her home town kind of far from where I live,
well before she left, we had some good time, and some romantic
moods but which didn’t lead to sex, because she told me she
wanted to be that way until she got married.
I didn’t object to her at all thinking that was just a first time
and that maybe next time she would give in into the idea.
Surprisingly, she called me from her home town, telling me she
had done something wrong, that’s she’s now a bad girl and
that she doesn’t know if I can still consider her again.
I asked what happened and she went ahead to tell me that she
was invited by her friends for a party, she got drunk and
when she woke up, her friends had gone, leaving her behind.
She wasn’t really sure but she thinks she had been raped by one
of the guys or maybe more I don’t know, and that was how
she lost her virginity, couldn’t say anything much but I told her
I would be expecting her return so that we can finally discuss
issues about what happened.
Later she called me that day like as if nothing happened,
telling me she misses me and feels like seeing me, its very
surprising because its just like a dream, because she didn’t
even go back to what she told me earlier that day, or even to
find out if I’m okay with that news and how I’m feeling.
This is a very sad one for me because I really don’t know
what to do, first I’m really outraged, and have been having
sleepless nights about what would be the right thing for me to
do with her, now I don’t trust her anymore, and I need to
know what I can do, because everyday I come up with the
feeling of maybe she cheating on me while I’m still here
depraved thinking about her.
I told some friends and they said it was a mistake that I
shouldn’t leave her, some even said maybe she wanted to know if I
really loved her and she decided to test me with that story to
know if I would still be with her if she had lost her virginity to
another man, right now I don’t know which one to believe
because the way the story sounded, she was really serious about it,
LN
hey
listen up.
what you need to do my friend is FIND OUT what is really
going on.
because you pointed out the possibilities and i
agree. it can only be a few things:
either:
1. she was raped
2. she got drunk and then just screw a guy(s)
3. she lied about losing virginity and is just testing you
for her, the worst of the 3 is obvious.
for you, i would be very upset with a ‘test’ of this nature,
but you should at least appreciate her desire to find out where
your heart and mind is - because there are “creeps” out there…
on the other hand, if she just was kicking back a 2%
alcoholic berry cooler and now she is playing the ‘oh, i
must have lost control of my conscious decision-making
abilities’ game, then that’s not cool…
I think for now you just need to calmly find out what really
happened.
if someone forced me to make a wager, then i’m going with
“she got drunk and then just screw a guy”
at any rate, good luck.
let me know how it goes..
warmly
cr james
Hi There CR,
Got your email, thanks for the reply.
She hasn’t returned till now that I’m sending you this
email but she still keeps calling me for absolutely no
reason, and every time she calls I get pissed even
more, because she actually showed me her true color this year,
There are a lot of things I’m really scared about, of course
now I’m going to really find out what happened, because
she even told me the guy [The Rapist] came to see her at
home, telling her he didn’t believe she was virgin.
After telling me she didn’t want to have the sex, but she
wished she could, problem was she had made a deal with
God that she wouldn’t do anything until marriage, and now
you go over to some other guys place, when you have a
boyfriend who you say you love so much. To go to the point
of getting drunk, it’s funny because from the time I knew her
she never drinks anything alcoholic except juices and milky
drinks.
That’s why I always find the story funny, and she didn’t care
at all about how I would feel. Any way I would get back to
you to give you the feedback because right now even a
seduction master wouldn’t want to be in this kind of situation.
Talk to you later
here you go…
i think you have your answer.
I could be wrong, but women who get rapped,
don’t willingly invite their attackers into their homes
for casual visits…
leave her and find a better woman. (because she’s either a liar
or a poor decision maker)
I can’t put it any simpler than that.
much success…